Are you tempted to pick out a drink for a friend before they even decide which one they prefer? Do you normally feel the urge to speak for others?
Are you one to always want someone to change a thing or two about themselves, because thatʻs when theyʻll become more desirable? Do you tend to feel you know whatʻs best for others and hence offer unsolicited advice in the name of being helpful? what do you people call it? HA! “Constructive criticism”
And do you at times complete a group project by yourself just because the other group members seem “uncooperative?” Or worse, you only do well when working alone and not in a team? Well, I might just have the perfect name for you, A CONTROL FREAK.
A wise woman once told me….”Live well with others”, this wise woman is in fact my mother. So how would you possibly live well with anyone if your tendency to want to control people is a repulsive behavior? You donʻt have to change who you are, but know when to control yourself.Live well With Others. Click To Tweet
Control yourself to offering unsolicited advice, control yourself to commenting on sensitive matters, whose sensitivity flies out the room with each opinion you air about them, control yourself to deliberately stepping on other peopleʻs toes in the name of assistance, control yourself whenever you feel the urge to unnecessarily supervise others when they are doing the work for you.
Stop trying to change people, especially how they do things. Their way is the best way, for them. Period! Click To Tweet
What you might not know is that, this sense of wanting to control is a bi product of anxiety, and the fear of the unknown, and this forces your need to control your environment and its outcome just so you may not be disappointed by how things might turn out. So instead of feeding the monster, here is what you might do.
- Stop trying to change people, especially how they do things. Their way is the best way, for them. Period!
- Stop arguing when criticized, remember, it is not always an invitation for an argument.
- Control your urge to insert yourself into other peopleʻs lives and trying to run It for them, because what better way if itʻs not your way?
- Donʻt decide anything for anyone unless theyʻve asked you to.
- Give others a chance to contribute in a group project. Stop with the work hijacking.
- Understand that youʻre not always right. And that over planning for the future is just you setting yourself up for more anxiety.
- Stop bullying people into opening up to you about their personal issues
- Refrain from speaking for others. Unless youʻve been asked to, you donʻt need to be another personʻs voice.
Itʻs not flattering to be referred to as a control freak, but then again, this is how you are wired, but you just might want to consider toning this down if you wish for your relationships to improve, be it at home, workplace, or even with people you’ve just met.Refrain from speaking for others. Unless youʻve been asked to, you donʻt need to be another personʻs voice. Click To Tweet Stop arguing when criticized, remember, it is not always an invitation for an argument. Click To Tweet
And most importantly, STOP MICROMANAGING! Oh dear, I donʻt even want to go there.