It’s hard to admit that you have been traumatized. It’s not always because of denial, but rather because trauma can occur in non-titanic situations. Daily experiences that are subtle but still hurtful may in the long term affect how we see and interact with ourselves and the world. When you muster the courage to admit so, it rarely makes healing any easier.
Disclaimer : Advice offered on this website should not substitute a relationship with a licensed mental health provider.
Here are every day practices that make the journey a tad easier (leap frogging is apparently not an option)
Boundaries are very important in the work of healing. Since healing is YOUR decision , everyone else may ( read as will definitely) not be on the same page with you . Some of these people ,things or situations may have contributed to the trauma or may directly be the toxic people you want to avoid or heal from. So save yourself some time and energy by understanding early on that just because you have decided to heal and the universe (or was it Paul Cohlelo ) said it will complement your efforts, the inhabitants of this universe won’t necessarily do the same. You can however dictate what you are willing to let into your mental, physical and spiritual space. Make a definite decision to not engage or put your self in triggering conversations or situations especially if they send you back to square one .
There is a reason a ship is not built on water.
2. Continuous self care
Self care is not always a seekh kebab and manicures. Physical self care is dope. It’s nice to take care of yourself, It’s rejuvenating to see properly manicured nails and go “Oh snap ! They are mine, I rule!!”
Self care is not always a seekh kebab and manicures. Click To Tweet
It’s also important to practice mental self care. You could have heaven-like toes dipped in that Lavy gel nail polish looking all queen like and all. But if you are filled with negative self talk, it won’t lift your spirits up. Go to therapy , go to therapy when you don’t want to , practice positive self talk , surround yourself with things and people that spark joy, allow yourself to persevere through the days when everything is not 100.
3. Radical acceptance
If you watched Oprah’s world tour 2020 interview with Lady gaga, you know what I am talking about. If you didn’t, go sit in a corner and cry. ( okay okay I’m joking the link will be inserted below but please go through it once you’re done with this article)
I have come to terms with the fact that I will probably never be the same. I will not always feel bad but I will never be like “everyone else ” or “me before you” . What’s done is done and I have fully ( not quite) embraced my new reality. With radical acceptance, you just accept, you don’t stop working on you, but you stop fighting against things you can’t control ( like your forehead )
So that’s it if you have any other tips that you can share regarding ways to deal with a healing process please share and comment down below and if you know anyone healing don’t hesitate to share.