Thereʻs this movement of uplifting women, especially women that aren’t always celebrated in society and I love it. I think a lot of people mean well, Itʻs just that the approach sometimes is counterproductive and actually instills a false sense of confidence.

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It says things like “light girls, dark girls do it better, we actually got more melanin, or girl, no real man wants bones love your body or a real woman is…and thereʻs a long list you’re really about and in the moment feels good, it feels you’re all about empowerment but there are two problems , one youʻre doing exactly what society did to you to the next queen, putting down to build up.

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Two, you’re basing your confidence on comparison off of what another woman lacks. True confidence is when you don’t have to compare yourself to anyone, you just arrive. …Celebrate what makes you amazing and after a while youʻre going to see that we are just reflections one another.

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This goes out to that particular group of people that thrive off of feeding their insecurities by stepping on the next woman based on their perception of how blackness should be presented. Itʻs heartbreaking that something as beautiful as celebrating black women collectively, can be presented in such a misconstrued and demeaning way.

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Deeper in skin tone or lighter, at the end of the day, we are all black, and we are all in this together. We can both rise and choose to mirror ourselves and see that it boils down to the blackness in us.

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By insinuating that your shade of black is better than the next, youʻre simply opening up a whole pot of madness where us as black women are welcome to brew hate amongst ourselves. Itʻs very much possible to celebrate your blackness without having to throw sand at the next black person that does not look like you. You are complete in your own approval, live in a place of glory by exalting what you see in yourself and in others.

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Dear black woman, again, however your body looks like, its yours and youʻre going to carry it with you wherever you go. Love it, own it, take care of it and most importantly nurture it.

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No real man wants bones”.. your wholeness does not depend on what the socially constructed ʻrealʻ man deems desirable. Besides, these same “real men” did not sit at the production table with God during your creation, so their opinion here is null.

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Just because you lack some of these features glorified does not mean you are any less qualified to be a full black woman. You are complete as you are, curvy, skinny, plus size, you name it.Itʻs a few people trying to rob us of what it really means to be different, and accepting diversity.

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Uplift one another without considering the next person as a threat, based off of physical appearance. Itʻs evident that insecurities are loud and hard to silence , this is an ongoing raging battle within all of us, and that is why we need to be kind to one another, embrace our spark without dimming that of others and make the journey towards self love a tad bit smoother.

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” Weʻre like colors of a rainbow, breathtakingly beautiful when together.”

Dear Black Women.
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