*To be noted, this is a rant! Read at your own risk*
Tell me if this has ever happened to you. You are minding your own business, scrolling through Instagram, uploading wacky funny clips to your story and here comes a person you haven’t seen in months, heck years talking about “You gained weight”. #relatable, am I right? I mean what do you even reply to that?‘Thanks’, ‘No, it’s just an angle this was taken from’…I’m genuinely curious here!
I honestly just feel like pouring every one of them a taallllll, cold glass of ‘STFU’! Not only because its hella none of your business but also because you could at least lube up the information. How about “Looking thicc ma!”? Or flat out don’t say it, because we may not have that kind of a relationship, why you think its okay to talk about that? It’s almost like people want you to either stay the same with time or they’ll criticize you because you’ve changed. But we do age, we do change; such is life. And life comes with seasons and seasons change. I say this so passionately because growing up I was the small skinny kid. Then came puberty, my season to blossom. And like large majority, the blossom could easier go to my bosom.
But we do age, we do change; such is life. And life comes with seasons and seasons change. Click To Tweet
And initially I thought I was chubby and perhaps something was wrong with me, but guess what? Even after all these years I’ve never been the same size ever again and that is fine by me!
See traditionally, Tanzanian culture encourages us to be forthcoming with our thoughts opinions on each others’ appearance. Everything from weight, height, acne and even the size of your private parts; nothing is off limits! As a child I got the skinny jokes, now I am getting the ‘you’re fat now’ comments. It’s a never ending cycle, I am never going to win and that too is fine by me!
Opinions are okay to have, but some are best not expressed. Especially now being older I definitely see how with different seasons comes different reactions and people gain weight for different reasons rather than the popular assumption attached to money and wealth in our culture. Depression, grief, disease etc. all this can lead to weight fluctuations, and for many yes it is simply a case of ‘More money, less problems’. But I digress.Opinions are okay to have, but some are best not expressed. Click To Tweet
My point is I go to Instagram to momentarily escape my reality with people who are momentarily escaping their reality. Lemme enjoy my escape in peace, if I am looking for your opinion then perhaps I’ll ask for it. Until then, don’t come for me unless I send for you