Are women capable of having sex with a man and not getting emotionally attached?
When is the right time to have sex after meeting someone new? Is there anything like the right time? Does any woman really have sex for the sake of having sex and getting off or is she trying to fulfil other desires? The questions involving women and emotional attachment after sex could go on and on.
Does any woman really have sex for the sake of having sex and getting off or is she trying to fulfil other desires? Click To Tweet
Well, a couple of years back, it was normal for a man to hook up with different women, get off, mix up their names and become “the guy.” A woman in such a scenario would become a whore, or would appear to have “whorish behavior” if I am to sugarcoat it.
But hallelujah, times have changed, not only are women fighting to have gender based rights at work, in public and in government but also in bed! Go women, when you can, you can! And it could be a good thing…. or maybe not.
A lady friend of mine is the most confident and well put together woman I know on the planet. After a crazy break up, she hooks up with delicious men and when you ask, she always goes like, “I just want to get off, men do it all the time, why can’t I?” She sometimes doesn’t keep these guys’ numbers and every time we bump into any of them in the streets, she has an uncommon gift of ensuring it’s not an awkward moment.
Sometimes, she gets calls asking her out for dinner or to hang out or even chances to try out dating. A sign that some of these guys get attached. She on the other side comes out very strongly about just wanting to get off and being totally cool with nothing more.
But I watch her closely and note every facial expression, every meaning between sentences and pauses, she beats herself up and sometimes she is regretful (unbeknownst to her I take note of these things.)She doesn’t admit openly that she is lonely, but I suspect deep hurt and rejection underneath.She says she is in control, but that is debatable. Who doesn’t want to be held down by one person? Who doesn’t want to wake up beside someone they deeply know? Who doesn’t want someone they can give their heart and be sure that their heart is safe with that person?
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Now, the question of women having sex and not being attached is another debate, but from girl to girl, woman to woman, we are not totally capable of having sex and not getting attached to some degree. Choose wisely whom you surrender your cookie to.
At the end of the day, no matter how cold hearted and tough you think you are, you cannot deny your natural instincts. Even superman has his kryptonite! You are an emotional being! Civilized people cannot fully satisfy their sexual instinct without love. You cannot want to have sex with a guy just because he is awfully handsome, intelligent, rich and has a penis! You have sex with a guy because he mentally stimulates you, there are feelings of you wanting to share an intimate part of you with him. Isn’t that emotional attachment?
When you have sex, you surrender yourself to that person and as a woman you become vulnerable and raw. You open up yourself and your body to an intimacy of another level, a level of its own, a level that you only ever share with yourself.Let’s not kid ourselves women, sharing your body with someone and expecting that you will not be emotionally involved is just lying to yourself. During sex, you are most vulnerable, especially with your emotional self.
During sex, you are most vulnerable, especially with your emotional self. Click To Tweet
Emotional attachment is no respecter of gender nor intimate activity that you have. It is inevitable for both women and men, sex or no sex when affection and feelings for someone come, they just come, and they don’t ask are you male or female? Did you have sex on your first date or eleven years after you met? They just come.
Emotional attachment is no respecter of gender nor intimate activity that you have. Click To Tweet
So, for a temporary sexual relief and false moment of connection, is it worth it to sacrifice the yearnings of the heart and soul, for underlying pain and rejection?