Friends as we all know them to be, add color to our life’s canvas, but what happens when they’re not complimenting the art? Constantly, out of love, we make excuses for their poor behavior, but this should not mean ignoring the red flags along the way. So who in our friendship circle do we need to let go of on this wonderful day?
The Jealous type
While it’s only human for your friends to feel a little envious of your new job, relationship, opportunities etc, it’s no reason to be made to feel horrible because of your achievements. Jealousy eventually becomes a terrible case of competition, and not the healthy kind. You spot one of these in your corner, let them go. Green is a beautiful color but not when painted with envy.
The Insecure friend
No one’s perfect so we are all going to struggle with something, be it self-image, esteem, or the likes, and it’s okay to talk about them? But if you’re forced to shrink yourself whenever you’re around an insecure friend to make them more comfortable all the time, just know you are holding on to a dead twig and sooner or later, it’s going to drop you. Insecurities are also what makes them play the victim even when they’re in the wrong, and forcing you to downplay your emotions when addressing an issue with them.
People who keep dropping subtle comments over situations/ things that sound so familiar to what you’ve done should not be welcomed into your corner. If they are your friends, they should be comfortable enough to tell you how they really feel about you in light of certain things, and not go around talking about you in subliminal messages be it on social media or back-bitting you in real life. You deserve better, queens.If they are your friends, they should be comfortable enough to tell you how they really feel about you in light of certain things. Click To Tweet
We all have those friends who just walk around with a cloud of negative energy hovering over their heads. One minute they’re hot and the next they’re cold and you can’t seem to figure out why. They make interactions with them a case of hard labour and you always feel like you’re walking on egg shells and can’t wait for the conversation to be over for you to breathe again. They take so much energy from you than they give and you always dread your next encounter with them. In your mind, you can almost hand pick one person who makes you feel this way. Yes, that one needs to go too.
Friends who refuse to grasp the idea of consent.
If it’s not yours, then you MUST seek permission to use it or own it. This goes from material things to sexual intimacy. If your male friend is constantly trying to extend sexual gestures your way, and without your approval, then he should go. People who “borrow” your stuff but without really asking first and on more times than you can count also don’t deserve a seat at your table or a hanger In your closet.
Friends who don’t push you.
You might possess great skills/ talent in a certain craft but your insecurities will never let you capitalize off of this. Now a good friend will cheer for you to dip your feet into the water because they know your talent will take you places. But, that one negative Nancy that builds a nest around you so you get more comfortable with not working on your gifts needs to go.
At the end of the day, become the person you need your friends to be and remember that you came into the friendship with your eyes wide open, so you better not shut them now.Become the person you need your friends to be. Click To Tweet