….”what do you mean it’s today?” …“I haven’t had my makeup done… “Jesus, I haven’t even booked for an appointment…” Panic attack on a hundred…oooh that was just a bad dream.
Gets up, Calls DivaGlam, sets an appointment. Phew I can finally breathe. Confirmed, I will be looking like some take away on this wedding! The wedding’s two weeks away by the way
Things we ladies go through when a friend, sister, cousin, friend of a friend (who’s a slayer)‘s getting married is a lot. First feeling is “aaaawww am soooo happy for her/you” then “so when’s the wedding?”
Whilst going through a mental math of your calendar because a wedding means:
- Engagement party
- Bachelorette / Kibao Kata (naughty naughty)
- Kitchen Party
- Send off
- Wedding reception (for the few bride’s chosen friends)
As Tanzanians, we looooove the endless events but not just that because it’s tradition. In my mind all these events are set for people who are more likely to not attend the wedding since yeah, majority shareholder of the wedding reception inviter is the groom (bummer) Tradition!
Now let’s say, all the above events would take place, and you my dear are expected to be there for all of them…your bank account is fully involved. Pledges would definitely not be below Tzs 100,000/= for each event.
- Engagement party?: Tzs 50,000/=
- Bachelorette / Kibao Kata (naughty naughty): Tzs 50,000/=
- Kitchen Party: Tzs 100,000/=
- Send-off : Tzs 150,000/=
- Wedding reception (for the chosen few bride’s friends) : Tzs 100,000/= Tzs 200,000/=
- Hair & Make up : Tzs 100,000/=
- Fuel/transport : Tzs 24,000/= (indirect cost that we surely ignore)
- Attires for all events (slayage) – Tzs 240,000/=
- Presents : Tzs 50,000/=
- Splash moments : the chop my money part would probably be a band of 10ers amount to Tzs 50,000/=
- After party: Tzs 50,000/=
Roughly for a good friend/close friend you are bound to spend about 1Mil Someone’s salary ey! We love weddings but let’s be honest, they do go deeeeep in our pockets. Mind you this is just one wedding, imagine have 4 weddings in a year!
Here’s where the Swahili phrase makes sense “ushoga gharama/kazi” meaning “its expensive/extra work to be someone’s friend”
The little we can contribute for our dears ones, kindly understand that this comes from our deepest part of our hearts and pockets. The same way it’s a crazy roller coaster with all the wedding preparations for the bride and groom, it’s the same/close enough crazy drive for us attendees as well.